• How to Change Circumstances

    edited by Alexander Becker

    Create your reality through communication.

    Repeated communication perpetuates the subject exchanged. In contrast, don't talk about things when the objective is -- not only to prevent knowledge about but even more so -- to preclude wider and potentially irreversible manifestation.

    Nothing is irreversible. Nothing is absolute. And when you think it is -- it is not.

    Once a certain reality appears right and matches your desire and expectations, make it a fact, pin it down by communicating it as widely as possible.

    Try to consciously rethink and refine your working theories. Be liberal when it comes to replacing a hypothesis. This applies to relationships as well as to marketing strategies and even business plans. You will discover that your assumptions tend to be more negative than the potential outcomes and thus inhibit the quality of your results. Find the weakest links and reinforce them.

    Tweak your plans, goals, and objectives until they precisely match your idea, then work and fulfill your idea, and eventually strengthen the elements you like most by selectively stressing them over the less desired details.

    Please note that honesty, absolute honesty, is a prerequisite here. What we are doing here is not tweaking information about reality, we are not suppressing facts, nor are we beautifying mediocrities; instead, we are modifying and optimizing progress, once it is still, well, in progress.

    This is another instance of the concept of the self-fulfilling prophesy, this is the exact way it works. Project your idea, your desired outcome. Broadcast your desire, appreciate it, look forward to it and finally manifest it.

    The self-fulfilling prophesy? The law of attraction? Yes, the two are the same with the self-fulfilling prophesy ultimately delivering the instructions, the how-to, in its very name.

    You get exactly what you dare to communicate.

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  • How Context Creates Meaning

    edited by Alexander Becker

    The sky is blue.

    What a surprise. Is it news? It depends. Great if you know and can see the sky and the blue. What if you never ever caught a glimpse of the sky, color notwithstanding? Then, it becomes news and the most interesting thing in the world.

    A claim that is so obvious or self-evident as to be hardly worth mentioning, except as a reminder or as a rhetorical or literary device.

    Being reminded of the self-evident, under appropriate conditions -- in the right context -- is often priceless. The most commonplace information becomes special when applied, or ignored, at its appropriate moment.

    Some people are said to be always in the wrong place at the wrong time. Being wrong just once is enough.

    What about actually being the right one, in the right place, at the right time? What's the point? Isn't it true that --

    • you're always the right one,
    • there's is always a right place,
    • and the time is always right?

    It's perfectly true, but to get started, attempt to combine only two of the rights; meeting two conditions at once is hard enough. The right one in the right place, but at the wrong time -- one second too late is sufficient -- isn't any better than no one at all. Miss the right time by as short as one second and don't bother to show up at all. The right one at exactly the right time in the wrong place? You get the idea.

    The trick is to meet the three conditions at once. This, you can't fake, by definition. On the other hand, to top it, you have to do it again. And again.

    Either it fits together or it doesn't.

    Within the right context, even the trivia and the truism become breaking news.

    I'm not telling you anything new. I'm not telling you anything you didn't already know. But what I am telling you makes sense, now, at that exact time, in this exact place, for you, for the right one. And only for you.

    Within your very context, it makes sense or it doesn't. But just in case it does indeed make sense, just imagine, wouldn't it make perfect sense? Wouldn't it create meaning?

    The sky is blue.

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  • The News Diet: Less News = More Productivity

    edited by Alexander Becker

    News Fasting. The deliberate avoidance of all forms of news media, particularly to relieve stress and relax the mind. Also: newsfasting.

    The concept is tried and trusted. Achieve moderation through deprivation. Go on a controlled fast and recognize the difference it makes.

    If you want results and you want them fast enough, you have to go extreme ways. Don't expect a balanced approach, we're going all out here. This is no moderate diet, no zone, this is the no-carb, guaranteed fat-loss, whatever-it-takes solution.

    Try and temporarily avoid the news and see the difference it makes. Do not ignore but screen out the news altogether -- without even attempting to keep track of what's going on through blogs -- for a specific time.

    Think fasting, in the dietary sense. Go on a controlled news fast for four weeks, no local news, no global issues, no foreign politics allowed. Schedule one cheat day each week and indulge in the weather channel. Make sure to stay with your local weather and avoid the world weather binge fest.

    Potential benefits include less TV time, less newspaper expenses and therefore less waste, a better mood and a greater sense of control since you cut out the things you can't influence anyway. The double effect on productivity is a relative increase in actionable information and an absolute increase in time to take action.

    Focus exclusively on your business (supposed you're not in the news business, in which case this diet isn't for you) and monitor the time you save and the decisions you make -- unbiased from and not influenced by daily news events.

    After completing this special diet, start to participate in news-inspired discussions -- freshly resetted and devoid of all too current facts, you'll find yourself perceiving -- ideally without judging -- the assumptions and influences of world news on your peers.

    No, there is nothing wrong with it, news are no evil, nor are they bad per se, just as carbohydrates aren't bad as part of your diet. The reason for going on a total fast is the occurring break and the experience of the difference. Just as with carbs, we slowly and moderately and consciously reintroduce news into our information diet. Start by gradually adding section by section of your newspaper or news aggregator of choice to your reading schedule. Deliberately include them in your diet, choose one, two, or three sections, and deliberately exclude the rest. What can you do without?

    Please note that the four-week duration is capable of breaking the habitual news consumption once and for all. Appreciate and enjoy your extra time.

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  • There Are No Misunderstandings

    edited by Alexander Becker

    This essay is part of The Subjective Reality Series.

    A misunderstanding is a failure to understand or interpret correctly. The theory is that there is no failure involved and each and every subjective interpretation is inherently correct.

    A misunderstanding is a disagreement. Then again, if both you and I were talking about the exact same thing, there would be no disagreement. But we're not. Instead, we are talking about your interpretation of what's going on and mine.

    We are describing different sides of the same coin with different, conflicting terms and the mutual assumption that both sides look alike. The ultimate argument deals with the surprising fact that the sides are not equal -- despite our best efforts to match our communication. Please note that we never argue about different things, we always argue about -- apparently -- one and the same thing. Once it becomes clear that both sides of the coin do in fact differ from another -- the fight is over.

    Don't get me wrong because you can't -- there are no misunderstandings. Only asynchronous thoughts. Consider the déjà vu situation from the matrix.

    [Neo sees a black cat walk by them, and then a similar black cat walk by them just like the first one]
    Neo
    Whoa. Déjà vu.
    [Everyone freezes right in their tracks]
    Trinity
    What did you see?
    Neo
    A black cat went past us, and then another that looked just like it.
    Trinity
    A déjà vu is usually a glitch in the Matrix. It happens when they change something.

    Something has changed. That's the point. Something has changed and isn't -- yet -- communicated to everybody involved. Misunderstandings are indicators of unfinished, incomplete communication. Misunderstandings are the expectation of linear development based on prior, obsolete knowledge while current knowledge has already advanced. You misunderstand because you're not up-to-date, you're not in the present.

    It's not that you know less than I do nor do I know less than you do. You and I know different.

    But I thought you meant, ...

    Apparent misunderstandings are born when one and the same situation, scene, or outcome is perceived and eventually analyzed and compared from different perspectives, through different lenses. Prior knowledge and experiences result in unique expectations which in turn lead to unique conclusions. Misunderstandings are the exchange and forced comparison of different levels of progress, quality, and contextual truth. Yes. It's exactly the way you think it is.

    On a sidenote, if there are no misunderstandings, is there any chance that there is no paranoia either?

    The paranoid person blames and/or fears intelligent beings for their supposedly intentional actions. The question is whether the supposedly intentional actions are in fact intentional and this again is a matter of perspective. Suppose I, myself am not aware of my intentions but instead you are. You make my actions intentional. Whose paranoia is this in the first place?

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